Sometimes people ask me this question another way: “What sins should I confess to my church?”
Should I Confess My Sexual Sin to My Church?
Tag: sexual sin
Why We Need to Stop Calling It “Moral Failure”
We need to stop calling it “moral failure” because that phrase is a cover, not confession. And it is confession that brings healing.
This One Truth Set Me Free for Life
I had never heard something like this before, and certainly not from God. Sure, I knew in my head I was saved by grace. But deep inside, from the place I actually live my life, I felt that God was waiting for me to get my act together before he officially decided if he forgave me or not.
Unfeigned Christianity, Episode 003: Stop Blaming Women! A Conversation with Merle Burkholder on Sexual Sin
A few weeks ago I sat down with a long-time family friend and casual mentor of mine, Merle Burkholder, to discuss men taking responsibility for their own sexuality.
What “All Things Work Together for Good” Really Means
People often quote Romans 8:28 when tragedy strikes. And while we can look at other parts of the Bible and see that God can work tragedy for His glory and use it for good, I do not believe we are being fair to the message God is speaking through Paul here in Romans. In fact, I will go so far as to say what Paul is talking about has nothing to do with tragedy. It might actually have more to do with porn.
Should a Divorced and Remarried Couple Really Separate When They Join My Church?
If you haven’t already, it’s only a matter of time until your church faces the question, “Should a divorced and remarried couple really separate when they join the church?” If you’re background is like mine, you typically have taken a fairly strict stand, viewing remarriage after divorce to be living in sin. But is that actually true? Should we really make couples separate?
God Isn’t Good
As the serpent got Adam and Eve to disobey God by wounding their confidence in His goodness, so he gets us to disobey God by wounding our confidence in Him. All addictions, and particularly sexual addictions, exist because deep in our hearts we believe God isn’t good.
The Day Every Man Wishes He Could Undo
Every man who has stumbled into pornography wishes he could undo that day. That is, he wishes he could rid himself of the guilt and shame he feels, the inability to look people in the eyes without having anything to hide. I know what it’s like. I’ve been there. This is my story. Only, it’s simply part of my story–just the beginning. It’s the part that must be told if you are going to believe me when I say victory is possible.
My Boyfriend Struggles with Porn, What Should I Do?
What if you’re dating right now and your guy is looking at porn? What should you do?
I’ve been one of those addicted to pornography. I am also one who is free, today. Telling my wife-to-be the story of failure was the most difficult thing I’ve done. Yet, it was also really healing.
So, in an effort to help couples navigate their own relational turbulence, especially when it involves sexual sin, here are a few things I suggest you do if your man, the guy you deeply care about, is hooked on porn.
When You’ve Messed Up Your Life with Porn
I was thirteen when I first looked up pornography. There was a three-day period when I didn’t care whether it was right or wrong—I fully indulged. Calculating times when I knew people wouldn’t be around, planning my strategy for searching, worshiping, and retreating.
But then I got caught. And once I knew I couldn’t get away with it, when I realized how violating my “acts of worship” were, I felt engulfed by shame.
Flirting with Lust Has Devastating Consequences
I learned a lesson on a recent trip I took by myself: actions have consequences.
More importantly, sin has consequences. When you and I give in to sin we will face excruciating consequences. Even though we may repent in brokenness, we cannot prevent the consequence of our actions.
I was traveling by myself and I should have known that I would be tempted, but I hadn’t experienced failure for a long time and assumed I’d be okay. Actually, I just didn’t even think about it. Life had been busy at the time, it never once dawned on me that Satan would attack me.
