If you long for true freedom, if you want to be able to look yourself in the mirror and not feel ashamed of what you do or have done behind closed doors, don’t miss this series.
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Pleasure, Sex, and Lust: Why Abstinence Isn’t the Most Complete Answer
What does it mean to lust? When I feel the physical urge to masturbate, is that lust? Is lust a desire? If I desire sex, is that lust? And what about those who feel strong desires for sex—maybe even feel sexually aroused at times—but have no meaningful way of fulfilling it? What are they supposed to do with their drive?
Dear Church, Please Stop Idolizing Marriage
Love is not sex. If we believe the gospel, those we are united with in Christ have a deeper familial connection to us than those we are united with through blood. How can we who are married better love brothers and sisters in Christ who are at a different stage in life than we are so they can feel at home in our churches?
Passive or Powerful?
None of us want the bondage of pornography. Yet, unless we have something practical we can do with our sex drive that is not also sin, we will continue struggling with moral failure. It doesn’t matter how much we resist lust, or how much we rest in God’s promises that He will give us victory and remind ourselves of God’s truths concerning His plan for us. If there is not something we can do meaningfully in living out our sexuality, it looks pretty hopeless.
What “All Things Work Together for Good” Really Means
People often quote Romans 8:28 when tragedy strikes. And while we can look at other parts of the Bible and see that God can work tragedy for His glory and use it for good, I do not believe we are being fair to the message God is speaking through Paul here in Romans. In fact, I will go so far as to say what Paul is talking about has nothing to do with tragedy. It might actually have more to do with porn.
Reckless
What happened that causes us to wrestle with lust and pornography? Why is it that we experience pain and sometimes hurt others, ourselves? Because we have chosen to listen to another person’s voice instead of God’s.
But instead of giving us what we deserve (death), God has taken personal responsibility for restoring us back to His original design. He’s done something reckless, in our human way of looking at it. Without it, we have no hope.
Your Sexual Desires Aren’t Strong Enough
So, when a guy struggles with pornography or masturbation, does he struggle because his sexuality is so strong? Does he desire sex too much? Could it be that his sexual desires are actually too weak?
God Isn’t Good
As the serpent got Adam and Eve to disobey God by wounding their confidence in His goodness, so he gets us to disobey God by wounding our confidence in Him. All addictions, and particularly sexual addictions, exist because deep in our hearts we believe God isn’t good.
Why You Find It Hard to Control Your Sexual Desires
For years, I was afraid of beautiful women, of ever being alone with someone I felt attracted to. I feared I would not be able to control my desires for her. And what if I was married and a woman tried proposing to me or seducing me? Could I stand strong, or would I give in?
Lust Isn’t Just a Man’s Problem
The last few articles I’ve been releasing mini glimpses into the content of my upcoming book Live Free – making sense of male sexuality. The book is a conversation about my own journey and what it means to live sexually whole and free as a man. This book is for men, by a man.
But I wanted to pause and acknowledge that lust isn’t just a man’s problem. Women struggle with it too.
The Day Every Man Wishes He Could Undo
Every man who has stumbled into pornography wishes he could undo that day. That is, he wishes he could rid himself of the guilt and shame he feels, the inability to look people in the eyes without having anything to hide. I know what it’s like. I’ve been there. This is my story. Only, it’s simply part of my story–just the beginning. It’s the part that must be told if you are going to believe me when I say victory is possible.
Communication, Sex and Finances—Surprise, Surprise!
Marriage has been incredible, really. I could not be any more blessed than I am with such a beautiful, godly wife. But there have been a few surprises in marriage, the kind I wish someone had told me about before we said, “I do.”
So, in the spirit of love and concern for all those who have yet to stand hand-in-hand at the altar of matrimony, let me share the five most jaw-dropping surprises I’ve faced in the first five years of marriage.
