Most people want to be liked by others, and that desire to be liked leads us to put on a smile or have a friendly conversation.
People Are Friendlier Than the Internet Portrays
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The Stuff of Intimacy
In my last post, I said we can live without sex, but not without intimacy. Having a great sex partner is not the key to sexual gratification. Finding the most beautiful spouse in the world won’t keep one from lusting after others. The desire for erotic pleasure comes as the result of a lack of meaning and purpose and nothing in life is truly meaningful without its relational value.
What I didn’t say in that post is what intimacy looks like. I didn’t really explain how to have meaningful relationships.
As I said before, I don’t necessarily feel like an expert at relationships yet, but I am slowly learning. The story of Adam and Eve in the Garden with God provides excellent training material.
You Can Live Without Sex, But Not Without Intimacy
Can I tell you a secret? Having a great sex partner is not the key to sexual gratification. Finding the most beautiful wife in the world won’t keep you from lusting after other women. The desire for erotic pleasure comes as the result of a lack of meaning and purpose and nothing in life is truly meaningful without its relational value.
Sixty-four percent of Christian men view pornography at least monthly. Thirty-seven percent look at porn several times a week. I know what it’s like to be addicted to pornography. I thought the struggle came from my strong sexual drive.
But as I came to experience freedom from lust and the addiction to erotic pleasure, I learned part of what held me captive for so long had little to do with sex and more to do with intimacy.
Young Families in Danger
Are you scared to take your young family into missions? People usually go into missions as singles or young couples. When the kids start coming and grow older, they move back to the States and “settle down.” But what if that is actually one of the most dangerous things you could do?
They don’t learn to serve others automatically as soon as they become adults. If they have been raised pursuing sports, hanging out with people they think are cool, and taking luxurious family vacations, that’s how they will live when they have their own family.
In this post I give three reasons why I think it’s better for young families to get involved in ministry than to “settle down.”
The Secret to Experiencing Meaningful Relationships
What if relationships weren’t meant to be about getting somewhere, but enjoying the journey?
Recently, my wife and I had a little squabble. The whole episode left both of us a little hurt and longing for deeper oneness as a couple. It’s in times like that I feel defeated and anxious of whether I’ll ever get relationships down, if you know what I mean.
We are all made for relationships. Even us men. We want meaningful relationships. But what does that mean? What does it look like?
