Men need respect as much as anyone needs respect. But we should define respect as treating someone with the dignity of being made in the image of God, not as always making them feel good and never contradicting them or trying to get them to change.
Marriage and family is not the ultimate goal in life; oneness with Jesus is. We need each other–including singles–in growing together in oneness with Him.
“When I came to the part about father wounds the dam just broke and I cried and cried and was now finally starting to understand what was the driving force behind my sexual desires.”
At the end of the day, I think what we are all looking for is verbal recognition that we matter, that just because I’m not at the same stage of life is you doesn’t mean one of us is missing out on something.
Love is not sex. If we believe the gospel, those we are united with in Christ have a deeper familial connection to us than those we are united with through blood. How can we who are married better love brothers and sisters in Christ who are at a different stage in life than we are so they can feel at home in our churches?
As an effort to thoughtfully engage “Is it wrong” kinds of questions instead of writing them off, I have opened an “Is it wrong…” column on the blog. Each week we’ll take a look at an issue we might wonder “is it wrong” about and unpack it. This week, we’ll look at the wedding ring.
I’ve noticed the church tends to isolate singles by giving married people more voice in decisions–even when they’re younger than some others–and by lumping them in with youth. In this post, I address a few underlying beliefs that cause this to happen.
If you haven’t already, it’s only a matter of time until your church faces the question, “Should a divorced and remarried couple really separate when they join the church?” If you’re background is like mine, you typically have taken a fairly strict stand, viewing remarriage after divorce to be living in sin. But is that actually true? Should we really make couples separate?
When is preserving marriage enabling abuse? Is all divorce sin? Does “turning the other cheek” apply to victims of domestic violence?
All this and more discussed in this week’s patron-sponsored blog post.
One week before asking Teresa Janae Miller out, I drafted an email to her Dad. Before hitting send, however, I chickened out and waited a few more days.
I was scared! I was afraid of being turned down. Afraid I was doing the wrong thing—that it wasn’t God’s will. Afraid of entering another relationship that would only end in pain. When I finally mustered enough confidence to send it off, I was stunned how easy it was.
I’m not sure we should take dating so seriously. Yes, take finding a future partner seriously, but not so seriously that you’re scared stiff to pursue (or be pursued). Give it a chance. It doesn’t have to work. But finding out if it could, really isn’t that difficult.
Marriage has been incredible, really. I could not be any more blessed than I am with such a beautiful, godly wife. But there have been a few surprises in marriage, the kind I wish someone had told me about before we said, “I do.”
So, in the spirit of love and concern for all those who have yet to stand hand-in-hand at the altar of matrimony, let me share the five most jaw-dropping surprises I’ve faced in the first five years of marriage.
What if you’re dating right now and your guy is looking at porn? What should you do?
I’ve been one of those addicted to pornography. I am also one who is free, today. Telling my wife-to-be the story of failure was the most difficult thing I’ve done. Yet, it was also really healing.
So, in an effort to help couples navigate their own relational turbulence, especially when it involves sexual sin, here are a few things I suggest you do if your man, the guy you deeply care about, is hooked on porn.
Author Asher Witmer knows what it’s like to want freedom from sexual sin only to continually fail. We’re often told we need more personal discipline, that we need to think godly things instead of fleshly things.
What if I told you that discipline won’t solve your problem with lust?
Our male sexuality is given by God for advancing beauty and goodness. But somewhere along the line it becomes something that causes devastation and guilt. The good news is we don’t have to live with guilt. In Live Free, Asher Witmer shows us how we can find freedom from sexual sin, live with nothing to hide, and be able to fight for others.
