Our conversation touches on aspects of his second book, No Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging in a World of Alienation.
Finding Belonging in Singleness (Greg Coles Interview Pt. 2)
Tag: intimacy
It’s Okay to Enjoy Valentine’s Day
At the end of the day, I think what we are all looking for is verbal recognition that we matter, that just because I’m not at the same stage of life is you doesn’t mean one of us is missing out on something.
The Stuff of Intimacy
In my last post, I said we can live without sex, but not without intimacy. Having a great sex partner is not the key to sexual gratification. Finding the most beautiful spouse in the world won’t keep one from lusting after others. The desire for erotic pleasure comes as the result of a lack of meaning and purpose and nothing in life is truly meaningful without its relational value.
What I didn’t say in that post is what intimacy looks like. I didn’t really explain how to have meaningful relationships.
As I said before, I don’t necessarily feel like an expert at relationships yet, but I am slowly learning. The story of Adam and Eve in the Garden with God provides excellent training material.
You Can Live Without Sex, But Not Without Intimacy
Can I tell you a secret? Having a great sex partner is not the key to sexual gratification. Finding the most beautiful wife in the world won’t keep you from lusting after other women. The desire for erotic pleasure comes as the result of a lack of meaning and purpose and nothing in life is truly meaningful without its relational value.
Sixty-four percent of Christian men view pornography at least monthly. Thirty-seven percent look at porn several times a week. I know what it’s like to be addicted to pornography. I thought the struggle came from my strong sexual drive.
But as I came to experience freedom from lust and the addiction to erotic pleasure, I learned part of what held me captive for so long had little to do with sex and more to do with intimacy.
10 Sure-Fire Ways to Ruin Emotional Intimacy with Your Wife
Teresa and I have had a few fights. We’ve never thrown things at each other. Just words. Actually, it surprised me how soon into our marriage we struggled with this.
I think I thought we had figured everything out in our courtship. I considered myself a pretty caring and sensitive man. But I had yet to learn the relational habits that lead to emotional disaster.
Guys, if you want to guarantee conflict with your wife, you need be sure and practice these simple principles as often as possible. They will eat away at any connection the two of you have and create a wall of silence and frustration.
