Question Submitted: If a man asks permission to date a lady and she says “no,” should he consider asking again?
When a Girl Says “No,” Should the Guy Ever Ask Again?
Tag: courtship
When You Need to Define Your Relationship
What if you find yourself in a relationship where you both connect, it seems as though you both like each other, but you’re not sure. How do you know if the other wants more? And if you’re the girl, how do you go about finding that out? Should you have a “define the relationship” talk?
In this post I share a few pieces of advice, from my experience, that I believe can be incredibly helpful to those caught in this kind of situation.
5 Reasons You Need to Understand the Role of Affection in Courtship
As you may have observed, this month I am going through the top 10 most-read posts of the year. Number eight is the lead-in post to the ebook I published earlier this year, Is Touch in Courtship Wrong?
Incidentally, the book is 40% right now. That discount won’t last. In fact, neither will the eBook. At midnight tomorrow night I’m pulling it down, so if you haven’t read the book, read this post: 6 Powerful Principles for Understanding the Role of Affection in Courtship.
And if you’re not sure you even want to read the post, let me give you five quick reasons why you should:
We Have a Courtship Dilemma
As I listen to other people in my generation I hear an increasing frustration with our courtship model. This seems to be true regardless of background. Is courtship as we know it today the way it should be?
Here’s how I’m approaching this post: I’m going to offer my perspective and then I want to hear yours. I love discussions, so let’s have one. I want to hear from other married people, but I also want to hear from singles. I want to hear your frustrations and desires.
Something has to change, and in order to influence change we must first have a conversation about it. So let’s talk. Let’s not argue or try to get everyone to understand ourselves, but instead let’s try to understand everyone else.
10 Books That Helped Me Better Understand Marriage
Before I got married, I read as much as I could about marriage and relationships. That’s typical of how we humans do life, isn’t it? Get it all figured out beforehand so nothing surprises us and we can maintain control.
After I got married, however, I discovered some parts of marriage were drastically different than I had imagined as I read books about it. I think it’s awesome to be “ahead of the game” in learning about marriage before we’re faced with the in-moment difficulties of communicating and relating. Yet, I think it’s helpful to take it all in smaller bites. We don’t have to read them all before marriage.
In this post, I’ve made a list of the top ten books I’ve read so far that I believe are must-reads for every young couple. I’ve also listed my suggested time when you should read them. Following my timelines and reading each book in the order I have laid out here in this post will guarantee you a successful and happy marriage for at least forty-two years. (Okay, maybe I’m joking.)
6 Powerful Principles for Understanding the Role of Affection in Courtship
I pulled in the driveway, parked the car, and shut off the engine. What an incredible night! We had eaten Subway (Teresa’s favorite fast-food) down by the river, then walked under the slowly setting sun until it was too dark to go any further. Since we weren’t finished talking, we decided to take a drive out towards Red Canyon Park. The moon was full and bright and I felt elated!
All I could think about was kissing her. She was so beautiful and I was completely enthralled with her.
At one point, I pulled off the side of the road and asked if I could hold her hand. I immediately retracted my request because I realized how it put her in an awkward place. She should not have to be the one protecting our sexual relationship. We had decided that we wouldn’t hold hands, not like that. It’s just that I felt such incredible desire for her I thought maybe we could do it for a little bit.
“I asked her out and she said ‘No'”
What’s a guy to do when he asks the girl of his dreams out and she turns him down? Or maybe they were dating, but she decided to break it up. Does that mean it’s over for good?
This week my wife and I are celebrating our third anniversary. I find it hard to believe it has been three years already because I remember so clearly how scared I felt when I first called Teresa’s Dad. I pushed it off for about a week. I was afraid that I would receive a “No.”
We have this thing called courtship, modeled after our “romance patriarchs”: Isaac and Rebecca, and Boaz and Ruth. As I understand it, the goal is to have a romantic relationship built by serving each other and around the purpose of pursuing marriage as opposed to simply having fun. But is what we call courtship in crisis?
Is Physical Touch in Courtship Wrong?
What if everything you’ve thought about touch in courtship is incorrect, or at least incomplete? Is it okay to have physical touch with your girlfriend? Or should a dating couple not touch at all?
What I Wish I Knew before Pursuing a Girl
Since it’s that time of year, why don’t we talk about love and relationships? There are a few things I discovered since getting married that I wish I knew back when I was eighteen and starting to think about pursuing a lady.
Relationships have a level of mystery that you can’t figure out beforehand. But if you are thinking about pursuing a girl, here are seven things I wish someone had told me before I started dating. I hope they help you in sorting through this whole “girl thing.”
