I’ve noticed a few common threads among books giving advice that hinders healthy sexual intimacy:
1. They tend to talk about sex from the male perspective.
2. They present the male sex drive as the only one that matters in the occasion.
3. They suggest that giving husbands good sex is the main way of keeping them free from sexual immorality.
4. They reduce sex to intercourse. (Spoiler: it’s so much more than just having intercourse.)
5. They perpetuate the obligation-sex narrative.
While each of these books has some good things to say, the underlying messages of what they say about sex seem to promote unhealthy sexual intimacy.
