Tag: 2015

10 Sure-Fire Ways to Ruin Emotional Intimacy with Your Wife

By Asher Witmer Romance & Family
couple disconnected

Teresa and I have had a few fights. We’ve never thrown things at each other. Just words. Actually, it surprised me how soon into our marriage we struggled with this.

I think I thought we had figured everything out in our courtship. I considered myself a pretty caring and sensitive man. But I had yet to learn the relational habits that lead to emotional disaster.

Guys, if you want to guarantee conflict with your wife, you need be sure and practice these simple principles as often as possible. They will eat away at any connection the two of you have and create a wall of silence and frustration.

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Reflections of My Time in LA

By Asher Witmer Personal Wholeness

A couple of months ago my family in LA found out they had to move. So I went home to help for a few days. Only, I surprised them:   What made this move unique is that it was the last place Mom lived. The last house where we enjoyed her company, ate her cooking, and […]

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Why Are You Obeying God?

By Asher Witmer Christian Spirituality
holding his bible

Sometimes it feels like our churches are filled with older sons, as in the parable of the prodigal son (Luke 15): our obedience is for the purpose of getting things from God.

We try to be faithful because we feel that warrants more love from our Father. Like the older son who got angry when the younger son received a feast after rebelling against his Dad. The older brother saw his obedience as something his father was indebted to. He didn’t obey because he loved his father, he obeyed because he loved the blessings his father would give him.

I look around at many conservative Anabaptists and see this same pattern happening.

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5 Discoveries from my 2015 Reader Survey

By Asher Witmer Miscellaneous

In April, I launched my first ever reader survey. I did it because I wanted to learn who my audience was and how I can better serve you. I’ve enjoyed analyzing the results and thought I’d share with you what I discovered through this experience. More than two hundred and twenty people took the survey, which […]

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When You’re Terrified of Your Strengths

By Asher Witmer Personal Wholeness

Authors Note: This is a guest post by my friend Matthias Miller. Matthias is a professional coach who is passionate about seeing people discover the reason they’re alive and reach their maximum potential. You can check out his website here. Our greatest terror does not always come from facing our weaknesses. It sometimes comes from standing […]

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Why I’m Mennonite (and why that’s not the point)

By Asher Witmer Popular Posts, Spiritual Formation

I took a risk in asking some questions last week about Mennonite distinctives. I framed the questions so they would be probing, yet wide-open for any and all to answer. It felt risky, and proved to be so.

There’s no doubt in my mind that this is a pressure point. Call me naïve, but I honestly didn’t realize asking these questions would produce as many fireworks as it did. My intention was not to create an argument or discredit our Anabaptist heritage. It’s just that there are a few things I wanted to share with my generation and felt I had to first ask some (risky) questions.

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When You Want More Than Your Mennonite Distinctives

By Asher Witmer Spiritual Formation
when you want more

Church is confusing these days. Especially with all the different denominations and applications to scripture.

I feel a tension in my generation of Mennonites. We learn in church that a passage of Scripture means this and we should be doing that because of it.

But other believers aren’t. Other people who have authentic relationships with Jesus aren’t necessarily wearing the veiling or dressing in dresses. In fact, some of them are having a greater impact on our culture. So why do we insist on doing things our way?

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