Marriage is complex. Is it wise to get married young? And what does it mean when someone is not married and they’re getting older?
Is It Dangerous to Get Married Young?
Relationships
Top 5 Books I’ve Read in the Last 5 Years (2022)
If I were to summarize the best books I’ve read in the last half-decade, where would I start? I’ve read so many good books! I think these five top them all.
Faith, Ministry, and Sexuality: What an Unlikely Friendship Taught Me about Them (w/ Luci Kinsinger)
My friend, Luci, joins me to talk about her recent book, Turtle Heart. Luci writes about a friendship she developed with an older Ojibwe lady, Charlene. Char taught her a lot about faith, ministry, and sexuality.
Is It True That Women “Most Desire” Love?
Framing “love” as a desire and “respect” as a need positions readers in a posture to diminish “love” and prioritize “respect.”
Is It True That Men “Desperately Need” Respect?
Men need respect as much as anyone needs respect. But we should define respect as treating someone with the dignity of being made in the image of God, not as always making them feel good and never contradicting them or trying to get them to change.
How My Past Porn Addiction Impacted My Marriage
A daughter or friend is currently dating someone who has confessed to struggling with porn, and you are seeking wisdom in how to counsel her.
9 Ways You Accidentally Make Your Wife Feel Ugly
Before getting married, I thought being a good husband was about “being ahead of the curve.” In an effort to do so, I devoured as many books on marriage and women as I could possibly find. And I learned a lot!
But there were a many things I never learned about in any of those books. One things was the many ways I accidentally make my wife feel ugly. Maybe one could change the word ugly for small or unwanted, but the point is after five years of marriage I am slowly waking up to the ways I unwittingly make my wife feel like mush.
How to Grieve with People Who Have Lost a Loved-One
Have you ever felt unsure of what to do as you watched a friend grieve after losing a loved-one? Here are a few suggestions of some meaningful ways to grieve with your friends.
6 Powerful Principles for Understanding the Role of Affection in Courtship
I pulled in the driveway, parked the car, and shut off the engine. What an incredible night! We had eaten Subway (Teresa’s favorite fast-food) down by the river, then walked under the slowly setting sun until it was too dark to go any further. Since we weren’t finished talking, we decided to take a drive out towards Red Canyon Park. The moon was full and bright and I felt elated!
All I could think about was kissing her. She was so beautiful and I was completely enthralled with her.
At one point, I pulled off the side of the road and asked if I could hold her hand. I immediately retracted my request because I realized how it put her in an awkward place. She should not have to be the one protecting our sexual relationship. We had decided that we wouldn’t hold hands, not like that. It’s just that I felt such incredible desire for her I thought maybe we could do it for a little bit.
Why Romance Doesn’t Last
“Romance doesn’t work.” At least that’s what I told myself on January 12, 2013. Two months after our wedding.
We have a skewed perception of romance in our modern culture. What we consider romance really doesn’t last. It’s shallow, self-centered and conditional. Yes, even as Christians we say “I do” with very selfish motives.
Do we have to grow old and stale as so many couples do? If we pursue romance for the purpose of feeling affection, then at the point those affections are no longer appropriately met, we will probably withdraw and our romance will die. But there’s another way.
Is Physical Touch in Courtship Wrong?
What if everything you’ve thought about touch in courtship is incorrect, or at least incomplete? Is it okay to have physical touch with your girlfriend? Or should a dating couple not touch at all?
Worn-Out Parents Like to Hear This Important Truth
I used to think that to develop holiness you need to develop good spiritual disciplines. But when I got married and started having children, I ran into trouble.
No matter how hard I tried and no matter how disciplined I had been before, my “good spiritual disciplines” kept getting interrupted by the responsibilities of marriage and parenting. It’s not uncommon for my wife and I to stay up late talking. Those times are good and needed. But then it’s harder to wake up in the morning.
Recently, this happened on a Friday evening and I thought we’d be able to sleep in the next day because it’s Saturday, right? Both our boys woke up at 6:30 the next morning. We had been up ‘till after midnight. It had been a busy week. All I wanted to do was sleep!
