Continuing our review of The Great Sex Rescue, we’re going to look at libido, sexless marriages, and sex as a transaction (i.e. “duty sex”).
How Might “Duty Sex” Destroy Marriages?
Author: Asher Witmer
I’m a full-time husband, father, Biblical studies student, and author of Live Free: Making Sense of Male Sexuality. I send out weekly articles offering culturally aware, biblically-nuanced, and Jesus-embodying responses to current-day issues.
Does Christian Sex Advice Promote Unhealthy Sexual Intimacy?
I’ve noticed a few common threads among books giving advice that hinders healthy sexual intimacy:
1. They tend to talk about sex from the male perspective.
2. They present the male sex drive as the only one that matters in the occasion.
3. They suggest that giving husbands good sex is the main way of keeping them free from sexual immorality.
4. They reduce sex to intercourse. (Spoiler: it’s so much more than just having intercourse.)
5. They perpetuate the obligation-sex narrative.
While each of these books has some good things to say, the underlying messages of what they say about sex seem to promote unhealthy sexual intimacy.
“How should we handle theological differences in church?”
Let me answer this question by making three observations and then drawing three conclusions about how to handle theological differences in church.
A Conversation on Power, Gender, and Roles within Creation w/ Rebekah Mui & Dru Lattin
In this week’s episode, I was privileged to be joined by Rebekah Mui and Dru Lattin to discuss power, gender, and roles.
Do Husbands Let Their Wives Say “No” to Sex?
Continuing our review of the Great Sex Rescue, we look at ways husbands sometimes use their wives and refuse to let them say “no” to sex.
Abuse That Happens in the Name of “Mission Work”
I’m honored to be joined by Dylo Cadet to discuss his recent book, In the Name of “Mission Work,” and the abuse he experienced at the hands of Christian Aid Ministries worker Jeriah Mast.
What Are the Lies We’ve Been Taught about Sex?
In this video, I discuss the first three chapters that address some of the lies Christians have been taught about sex.
People Are Friendlier Than the Internet Portrays
Most people want to be liked by others, and that desire to be liked leads us to put on a smile or have a friendly conversation.
What Are We to Make of All the Commentary about Asbury?
There has been a lot of commentary around the Asbury revival. What are we to make of it all? What are we to make of Asbury? What are we to make of revivals?
Context Matters If You Want to Understand Issues Today
If we’re going to understand each other, we need to understand that everyone works from a particular context and we need to filter the information they’re dumping on us from their context.
What Does Jesus Really Say about Divorce and Remarriage? (w/ Dwight Gingrich)
I am thrilled to share my conversation with one of my friends and mentors, Dwight Gingrich. He has been doing an in-depth study on divorce and remarriage.
Dru Lattin on How Our Faith Changes as Life Unfolds
Dru Lattin and I discuss “deconstruction” from a pastoral perspective. Basically, we talk about the ways our faith changes as we gain more experiences.
